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If You Know This You Are One Step Ahead in Charisma.
Proper eye contact is the most powerful tool you don’t yet master.
I bet that we both know someone who never breaks eye contact when they speak.
A few minutes into the conversation and your facial muscles start to feel the fatigue from tensing a smile to show that you are listening.
The forced — not necessarily fake — smile and little head nods are essential to keep the conversation flowing well, however, moderation is everything.
If the speaker does not break eye contact the listener feels like they also can’t look away for a second and this tension contributes to an energy-draining social experience.
I am also willing to bet that you just now are realizing that this is true. I invite you to explore this issue a little further and ask yourself how conscious you are of where you look (and how often) during social interaction.
How aware are you of your eye contact?
Know that every aspect of social dynamics has been deeply studied by scientists of charisma who try to better understand the nuances of human interaction.
If you have a bad hand-shake people will notice instinctively even if they never studied charisma. If you unsuspectingly use your gaze inadequately then your charismas skills could use an easy pump.
Learn this and you will be ahead of the curve.
The Eye Contact
Eye contact is way more intimate than words will ever be.
— Faraaz Kazi
Did you ever notice that when we speak with someone it’s impossible to look at both eyes at the same time?
As soon as you see the right eye, the left blurs away. When you change to the left the right eye is now out of sight.
It happens often to me that I’m in the middle of a conversation and I suddenly have this strange realization that I don’t know if I should look at the person’s left eye or…
