Learning charisma the hard way.

How to teach yourself the charisma skill-set

There is the easy way of learning charisma and the right way.

When I completed 15 years old I went on a school trip. In this little vacation one of my friends bought with him a book to kill time: The Game.

The Game was written by Neil Strauss and was my first contact with the idea that social dynamics CAN be learned. To be sincere, just the mere idea that I could observe a group of people and cultivate a set of skills to consciously succeed in social interactions blew my mind.

The first thing I noticed was that in every social environment people tended to organize themselves in groups. A group of friends will stay together, many times organized in a circle with each member of the group facing each other.

To these groups (any group of people, really) we call sets. The useful thing about observing sets is to conquer and destroy.

When each potential social interaction is coherently highlighted by the cognitive system, the elaboration of a strategy and tactic comes naturally without any effort.

So, this is true for any meaningful pattern in social venues.